A self-differentiated leader is able to lead and connect simultaneously. They respect their own inner guidance system – what they want, think, and feel – and convey their sense of direction clearly, calmly, and consistently. They follow their own path, yet respect and tune into the people they are leading. They are self aware, manage conflict with minimal ego and defensiveness, consistently listen and understand the perspectives of others, and encourage openness even in the form of apparent dissent. They take clear stands and hold people to clear standards. They recognize their emotional impact on the organization. They are serious but don’t take themselves too seriously. They have fun, which in turn encourages a playful yet focused emotional energy.

– Based on the work of Edwin Friedman